Juniors : {for spare time reading!}

part 1: interaction

i dont know whether i should write it or not, or is it too early to write this?? but i must appreciate the juniors.
like each other years, the batch is a mix of some goods and some "not so goods", but i seem to have interacted with the goodones only... the first day itself, i had interacted with 7 odd freshers, of which i remember the CSE- ukra guy very nicely, one guy is supposed to have come from CP, and knows me from my target batch days... although i dont remember him. i met his friend, arvinds bro, and 3 more guys out there... i was missing the smart,decent,confident and quality junior... finally i came to know such a junior (shouvik, ME) the very next day! i was a bit rude, and he afraid. i dont know why he was afraid of me that time, may be, my being a senior was reason enough for him to stay away. he was the first to have approached me, thinking me to be a fresher! LOL, i was trying to execute some "second year" stuff, like asking him to introduce himself and stuff, but he seemed innocent, and me confused! he seemed mannered and didnt lack confidence. i actually liked him - a sharp junior material. but as i started to explain to him , how to introduce himself... the 3rd year seniors came and did a thoda-bohut [thoda for them.... bohut for the junior] ragging. i remember the guy with shouvik, he was arrogant, but i didnt tell him anything for he was sick !
anyways.. i found in shouvik the right proportions of confidence and decency and a perfect brother type guy! i donot expect him to lie to me! if he does and if he is caught... God save him! i cooled him down a bit, and enjoyed all the way to kolkata, where i really felt good, interacting with a junior,.. i dont know what he felt!
(may be - what a senior re bhai!! instead of ragigng me... talking as if he is a friend!!?? )
any how , he now shares a bros' place in my heart!
after him, i met his roomie and his friends.. hehehe
i just walked into the first years canteen ( which i was not supposed to do by any means), and sir also didnt check me... and before that i had a talk with a dozen of juniors or even more than that... and i loved it! i corrected them, took their "chota" intros . the most significant of them were the two CSE juniors and harsh gupta , another CSE junior... who smiles at everybody...
let me meet him someday... i am sure to make him smile for an hour!!LOL. in the canteen , i met some more of my juniors... a total interaction, talked freely with all, and answering their innumerable questions.. oh God... where do they bring these questions from??
anyways... i managed to find a couple of "not so good" juniors, sort of scolded them.. but finally escorted to the college, skipping my lunch.
the next instance, i was taken back by a surprise!!
a girl (girls are supposed to epitome of discipline and manners... right??) pointing finger at me, saying "excuse me!! where is the EC101 lab??".. i couldnt help but be rude!
i scolded her a bit ( i couldnt get more rude!!), but finally showed her team (15 girls perhaps or more) the lab. the teacher there, didnt mind the scolding and supported me there.
that day also, i met some new faces... some good, but not as good as shouvik... but were good. they lacked confidence..
the junior from CSE - anjani kr mishra... he lacks something... i dont know what.. but lacks something, he said "yes bhaiya" a million times... after i completed each of my statements..
that irritated me..
yuvraj- as his friends call him..[i again forgot his real name] is good... but i think it is tough for him to accept me as his senior , i can understand.. he is older to me by age.. so i dont expect much much respect from him... but yes - i do expect decency from him...
with him , came another fresh face, arrogant, irritating, nonsense stuff..sure to be blacklisted!
i forgave him, when he said sorry [he had the audacity to call me and say "sorry".... aami arr ki korbo... kore dilam... forgive!! bollam "first nonsense is always forgiven..."]
oh ha!! yesterday, i met a kid!! a first year kid(debashis charavarty)... who speaks much,,, i mean very much.,. too much ... a bit too very much though... onek khon por aamar matha ta byatha korte legechilo...
even sei raat e aami sei bok bok - e ghumeo shunte pachilam!!
ekhon oke dekhlei hashi paaye. i lend him my shoes though... and that evening, i stood there talking to one junior or the other for about an hour!!
in the independence show also, i met many freshers.. of the notables is jahangir alam, (again from mechanical department), who was confident, and has qualities of becoming an anchor (ototao confidence nei...)[i felt the need of a good anchor... may be the anchor there was pathetic!] and another guy, from pharma. who took my phone number.
{it is sad that almost all juniors i have interacted with are guys... i wanna see more junior girls , decent, confident, quality freshers to interact with me}
later today i met 2 juniors. ... obese.. not so confident, pampered.. pathetic... they need their parents to take them home?? yack!!
and both of them are supposed to be from respectable disciplines!! one was from ECE while the more pampered one from CSE!!
yeh junior ke chakkar mein, i also interacted with many of my seniors,,,... with whom i never felt the need of interacting before.
but they were also good,... in short - my juniors are making me feel more responsible, and i am starting to enjoy myself at college!
kudos to shouvik,avik, "yuvraj", the talkative debashis, the over simplified - bidhan for making me feel responsible and feel like a "grown up"!!

arrlekha uchit hobe na! 'freshers hoye jak tarpor lekha jaabe,,,
i am supposed to write a testimonial for shouvik... after he writes it for me.. hehehe..lets see..




part 2: expectations

see, we all seniors look for certain traits in our juniors. what do i want??
what exact traits in juniors/freshers am i searching for??
am i searching for a flamboyant new face who will bunk classes and do sort of dada giri??
or am i searching for a fully oiled hair guy who is a book worm? or a person shy enough??
at first i was confused... the kinda moody person i am, i love each trait at some point of thetime or other... in my class also.. sometimes i really appreciate nupur mallik for her consistency, ashish for his flamboyancy [but no dadagiri], avinash for he oversmart attitude... debashis/DD for their simplicity, aninya for her didigiri,, anindo for his precision, abir for his intellect... kashinath, priyojit for their "no care in life" attitude.. priyonkor and monodeep for their respective ambitions, arvind for his constant improvement, nilima for her commitment towards studies and the class..salauddin for his "simple on face" expressions,, priyank for his attitude [which sometimes appears very stupid to me depending on my mood][but it isnt actually].... mrinal for his confidence... but all these trait apart, what am i searching in a junior?

well... someone like no other,, someone who will never lie to me, however rude or hurting it is... will speak the truth to me, share feelings, listen to me.. decent, confident, a guy/gal who talks,shyness element ektu [seriously ektu] thaka uchit, who knows how to keep the balance between decency and confidence, and ha!! reliable.

emon jeno na hoye, je beshi confidence dekhalo, attitude dekhalo, mithya bollo.... erokom hole jani na ki korbo... aami ekhono lier der ke parle merei feli... i really do feel je... liers shoudnt stay on this face of earth,... any ways..lets proceed with the topic.
jeno beshi lojja na paaye. if he/she is very very shy.. then its problem!!
should have enough confidence, not to fumble infront of a senior....
[matha ki bhabe thanda rakhte hoye... seta ami oder ke shikhiye debo!!]
the one who talks,,,emon jeno na hoye.. je i take him/her out for a treat and we spend the time with dumb mouths!grrr... i think i have enough explained it... i cannot more explain it.
basically bhai/bahen type!
a one who doesnt find wishing seniors - detrimental to their self esteem, should have an attitude but mustnt have a problem with it! i mean should use the attitude in the right ways!
it shouldnt come in between while talking with a friend or a senior!

i think these are the basic requirements of becoming a good junior!! LOL
was i one ??

na apatoto arr kichoo chaina..
they are the juniors now, and after 1 year will be the 2nd years... they [we too] are the soul of the college,,,,.... they must be good!
aami ei raate e ki shob aaje baaje post korchi!!



part 3: ragging - the gandhian way

do anyone here feel that ragging is necessary??
or does all feel that it is evil??
or the diplimats here would definitely feel ragging to be "necessary-evil"!!\

but i feel, physical ragging should be stayed away from and never should be resorted to.
arr emniteo aamader college e jaa hoye... that is light years away from being physical...
ha... aamader senior gulo aamader kichoo irritating questions korto... ja mental ragging bola jetei pare,,, but i am a staunch follower of Mr.M.K.Gandhi....majhe majhe aage saddam hussain type hoye jetam.... but its a rare phenomenon now!

i feel taking intros is enough.... and when ever your juniors go wrong,,... if we correct them, that will be enough....
i have seen, and sorted some of the common problems amongst juniors and have found ahimsic methods to solve it. [taking for granted, that being a senior, they will follow our words]
> speaking less : bhison baaje jinish.... very very condemnable thing... toh this is the punishment : "start talking... talk for the next 5 [or 10] mins , and for each big pause, 5 more minutes will be added... ", by this if he pauses... he needs to speak more... and i am sure he/she will stop... and after a considerable long time... will speak their mind... and that is what i want from the juniors,... to speak their mind.

> speaking more: try the reverse.... but i feel... people look good only when they talk.... so i'll let my juniors talk... talk as much as they can.... [but beware of debashis charavarty]

> attitude: it of various types.. and the most nonviolent thing that can be done .... is something like this:
==> excuse me [without any kind of sir/mam/dada/didi] : make him/her write "x-cuse me!!" for 500 times without a considerable pause... for each pause add 50 times more!
i think he/she will forget excusing themselves...
====> extra smart/irritated looks: just make him/her stand by your side, completely ignoring him/her while you are talking to other juniors...
=========> extra laughing [ the harsh gupta syndrome]: irritates most seniors... [sometimes i get irritated, depending on mood],.... karo mukher hashi kere neoa uchit na.... ekdom na... make him laugh for 5 minutes!
and for each considerable pause... add 5 more minutes to the laughing account!
===============> afraid/frightened: take him/her to the cafeteria or the shop near by... make him/her comfortable by chilled water/or coffee/ or tea... relax him/her...
======> indecency: etar ki korbo... seta niye aami research korchi... eta hole matha khub gorom hoye.... saddam type hoye jai.. kintu ahimsic way khujji...
==========> disrespecting girls: .... sonu nigam er classically mild album er "dhyannya dhaanya naari jivan" gaan ta 50 bar shona.... ba nirupa roy er video dekha... and then ask him/her sing that song or act that way... get the lyrics memorised.... and for each mistake commited after listening to it for 50 times... for each mistake make him/her listen to the song 5 more times!

apatoto etotai thak... baki ta aaro research kore likhe debo//